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Cultural Appropriation vs. Cultural Appreciation: Know the difference

The Breakdown is a Tempest exclusive series that attempts to tackle issues, concepts, terms, and histories that are relevant and intrinsic to conversations about social justice. This is our version of a 101 on Social Justice, with a grassroot level approach that hopes to simplify and make political and cultural conversations accessible in a global level.

The debate around cultural appropriation versus cultural appreciation has existed for a while. However, it gained significant momentum recently after the re-emergence of the Black Lives Matter movement after criticism against how Black culture has been heavily appropriated in pop culture and fast fashion. Since May a number of celebrities, influencers, and brands have been called out for cultural appropriation on mass media. One such example is Reformation – a sustainable clothing brand – who was called out for the lack of Black models on their Instagram feed. The brand has since attempted to diversify its feed. On the other hand, rapper Bhad Bhabie came under fire for comparing herself to Tarzan and had to defend herself against accusations of appropriating Black culture.  

But there’s always a question when you see people donned up in clothes, ornaments, or participating in things that are not part of their culture. Are they appropriating another culture or is it appreciation? 

The academic definition of cultural appropriation is “taking over of creative or artistic forms, themes, or practices by one cultural group from another. It is in general used to describe Western appropriations of non‐Western or non‐white forms, and carries connotations of exploitation and dominance.” Appropriation involves enacting on certain parts of a culture such as clothing or hairstyle without a full understanding of the culture and reinforcing stereotypes or holding prejudices against its people. It can also involve not crediting the culture itself or its creators.

An example of cultural appropriation could be wearing a bindi. Buying a bindi from a tourist shop or a company that just produces the item does not give you the full perspective of the culture. In fact, in some ways, it creates a false perspective that it is just merely a decorative ornament. Bindi symbolizes different aspects of the Hindu culture and Indian women who wear it, do so with significance to their culture. 

Wearing a bindi or another piece representing a specific culture might get you positive attention or appreciation. However, when someone from the same culture wears an item from their culture but gets more negative remarks than positive is where it becomes problematic. For instance, wearing a ‘hipster’ headdress is not okay. The warbonnet headdress perpetuated by Hollywood projects the view that all Native American’s have the same culture. There are, however, approximately 500+ distinct tribes with their own cultures. Warbonnets or feather headdresses are not a fashion choice but a symbol of respect and honor that needs to be earned

People are straight-up told that their cultural practices are old-fashioned or conservative. Often times, they may be told to conform to the social norms, or worst case, they may become a target for hate crimes. Remember, when Zac Efron wore dreadlocks “just for fun”? To which, he was reminded that Black people get turned down on job interviews for wearing locs and braids. 

Cultural appreciation, on the other hand, involves appreciating and taking an interest to understand another culture. This involves sharing knowledge with permission and credit those who belong to that culture. For instance, when you purchase an item you buy it directly from the creators. You understand how the item is intended to be used and learn the value it holds in the culture.

Once, a friend of mine was invited to attend a sermon at the mosque. Despite being agnostic herself, she explained to me that she understands the significance of wearing a headscarf to the mosque and respects it. Therefore, she intended on bringing a headscarf to the mosque and cover her hair to show respect during the sermon.

Cultural appreciation involves paying respect to the artists and creators and understanding the origins of a culture. Remember, 2015 Met Gala’s high-risk ‘China through the looking glass’ theme? Rihanna was one of the few attendees of the gala who wore a dress that was crafted by an esteemed Chinese designer. It is not the perfect contextualization but at least a more suitable one. 

I cannot stress enough how important it is to know the difference between cultural appropriation and cultural appreciation. Romanticizing and sexualizing certain cultural aspects whilst rejecting other aspects that do not interest you trivializes the culture. Appropriation perpetuates stereotypes and racism. It obstructs the views and voices of those who belong to the culture giving it to those who have appropriated it. 

With Halloween just around the corner, here is a quick reminder that culturally appropriated costumes are offensive and should not be worn. Wearing costumes that are cultural stereotypes literally reduces an entire culture and its people to a costume. Need I remind you of Scott Disick’s costume of a ‘Sheikh’ or Julianna Hough who darkened her face to portray a character from Orange Is the New Black. A good idea is to do some research and find out whether or not your costume is racist. Bear in mind though, if you need to do a lot of explaining as to why your costume is not racist, then it is a sign that you should reconsider. (Here is a handy guide of “costumes” you should NOT be wearing)

The bottom line here is that there is a fine line between appropriation and appreciation. We live in an increasingly globalized world and it is important to be mindful of our words and actions. Certain behaviors are never appreciative and should be avoided. It is a learning process but one that is not too difficult. Keep educating yourself because, at the end of the day, we all learn and grow everyday.

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History Poetry Forgotten History Lost in History

You probably don’t know about Hettie Jones, a crusading Beat poet

You’ve heard of a Jack Kerouac, but have you ever heard of a Hettie Jones?

The Beat Literary Movement of the 1950s is coined for its explicit subject matter and bohemian lifestyle. Americans in the 1950’s lived in largely suburban towns and felt threatened by things like communism. Men went to work in suits and women stayed home to cook, clean, and tend to the children.

The rebel, beatnik, group of authors that made up the Beat Generation were iconoclastic. Much of their work explored and influenced American culture and politics in the post-war era. They experimented with form and structure while writing about sex, drugs, and religion. Traditional literary houses rejected them and looked down on them as a group as being defiant, untalented, and unprofessional. 

I think that their being unconventional was the whole point, though.

They were the antithesis of mainstream American life.

They wanted to publish anything that was deemed inappropriate by society. These people were tired of the routine, and frankly, felt beaten down by the conservative lifestyle that they were stuck in. They were highly controversial in that they were the antithesis of mainstream American life and writing. Many of their works of poetry and prose focused on shifts of consciousness and escaping “squareness.” The stereotype around the Beats is that they were not in favor of what they considered to be straight jobs. Instead, they lived together, packed into small and dirty apartments, sold drugs, had sex with each other, and committed crimes. They are also known for exploring homosexuality, which was a highly taboo topic in 1950’s America.

Though they set many precedents together, the Beats still succumbed to the blatant sexism of the time. Most, if not all, of the women involved in the Beat literary movement were overshadowed by their male counterparts for no particular reason other than gender. These women were just as intelligent and qualified to question society as the beatnik men who have become well-known poets and activists.

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One of the most iconic, and downplayed, female poets of that time who deserves righted acknowledgment is Hettie Jones. 

Hettie Jones published 23 books- and yet, we forgot her

Hettie Jones is most known for her marriage to the famous Beat Poet Amiri Baraka (formerly LeRoi Jones). Few people know that Hettie helped run Totem Press, one of the more important beat publishers, along with her husband. She went on to publish about 23 books, one being a memoir of her time spent with Amiri and the rest of the Beats titled, How I Became Hettie Jones (1990). She has also written for many prestigious journals, lectured writing across America, and began the literary magazine “Yugen.”

Hettie is one of my favorite poets, so I think that her writing deserved to be at the forefront of the Beat movement, right there with the boys who got so much praise for their work. 

Hettie’s writing is rooted in practical idealism. She left her family home in Long Island to go to college and to fully discover herself. When she graduated in 1955, she never turned back, and moved to New York City. She met Amiri while working at The Record Changer, a jazz magazine. He was a young, black poet with just as much intelligence and intensity as Hettie. They quickly fell in love and moved in together. They would go to poetry readings at cafes and bohemian bars, where they met many of the other Beat poets.

Hettie deserved to be at the forefront of the Beat movement.

When the pair founded their own magazine, they published the writings of many of the iconic beat players who could not find a home for their writing in the traditional sphere. Hettie was in charge of editing the works that were to be published in the magazine. It was here that she honed her craft and found power in the refined writing that makes her work stand out from the rest. 

By 1960, Hettie and Amiri had two children, were married, and lived in New York City. Being a biracial family, though, countless bigoted remarks were directed towards them regardless of the Beat scene. Hettie was on the receiving end of most of these cold stares and was able to see the world through the eyes of her husband and children. This affected her incredibly and eventually became a recurring theme in her writing.  

When Amiri became tightly involved with the Black Power movement, he was criticized for having a white wife. They divorced in 1968. Hettie thrived on her own though and made a living with her children while teaching and editing. Her separation from her husband also gave Hettie an outlet to speak up and finally publish works of her own. She has been quoted to say, “Without a him in the house, there was more space/time for her, and I tried to redefine the way a woman might use it.” 

To this day, Hettie’s writing is compassionate. She writes about her own experiences in a compelling manner while weaving in the issues that she cares about. Currently, Hettie lives in New York City, and is a writer and lecturer. In addition, she runs a writing workshop at the New York State Correctional Facility for Women where she recently published a volume of writing by incarcerated women.

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Fashion Lookbook

How having a personal tailor can reduce our need for fast fashion

Picture a fifteen-year-old girl swathed in itchy fabric held together by pins. She turns this way and that before she’s firmly admonished by a young woman telling her to stay still. That girl was me once upon a time. Everyone has a tailor or multiple tailors growing up in Nigeria. It’s simply a way of life. Even with the proliferation of fast fashion and social media, our tailors from the fancy to the functional remain a consistent presence in our lives.  The question is: why?

The simplest and easiest answer is because of tradition. For weddings, funerals and all events in between, a good tailor for traditional outfits is a must. I still remember the green fitted skirt with a matching gold bustier top I wore to a wedding. It’s still one of my favorite looks ever. It is also something I wouldn’t have been able to pick up at H&M.  For large events, you usually buy fabric from the event planner and then sew an outfit according to your relationship to the person hosting. For instance, men might wear one fabric, and woman another. To make it even more complicated there may be different tiers. The close family could wear green, for example, the extended family yellow, and close friends blue.

The first tailor I developed a consistent relationship with, met me when I was 12. A transition period in most people’s lives; becoming an adolescent.

I am 24 now, and she still makes clothes for me. She’s one of the most stable relationships I have ever had. Through fashion, she got to know me incredibly well. Where I’m from, your tailor is a part of pretty much every important milestone in your life. Sitting across from them, like a therapist you begin to collaborate on an outfit. It could be for your baby shower, your graduation party, or a funeral. Slowly but surely, they begin to carve out an outfit that will suit you. Most of the time they even source the fabric. Through this exercise, I learned to be bolder with my stylistic choices.

In order to meet your perfect tailor suited to your needs, you kiss a lot of frogs in the process. You will meet lots of tailors that will ruin yards of expensive fabric or who will adamantly go against your wishes and sew complete atrocities. I know I’ve been on the receiving end of unfortunate encounters with those types of tailors. But that’s what makes meeting your perfect tailor so rewarding. Meeting someone who’s on the same stylistic wavelength and knows your body intimately? Priceless.

With fast fashion under intense scrutiny from the public due to unfair labor practices and environmental destruction, I can’t help but think about the series of tailors I’ve encountered. They taught me patience and the appreciation that comes from watching an outfit slowly come together. I was shown how different fabrics sit on the body. Jersey, for smoothing and highlighting curves and linen for dressing up or down looks. I got to feel the fabrics with my own hands. Unlike many people who live in the West, I had an intimate relationship with the person who makes my clothes. Due to this, it was absolutely out of the question making them work harder than they possibly could. Or refusing to pay them the worth of their craft. The fact is, the further the relationship with the maker and creator of things; whether it’s fashion or farming the more likely for abuse.

I am fortunate that I have had the experience of learning the craft of making clothes from people who have been doing it all their lives. Recently, there has been a crop of sustainable fashion labels, with the designers and manufacturers based in the country of origin. People are more interested than ever in not letting their fashion add to their carbon footprint. This is a good step in fostering the relationship between maker, seller, and buyer. It’s not quite the same as having a woman with a thimble on both of her thumbs attempt to straighten out an Ankara skirt.  But it’s a start.

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Gender The World Inequality

Pakistani men have weaponized #MeToo against the same women it should be helping

Pakistan is a country that is built upon the identity of its people, so it seems fitting for our culture and traditions to be dearly held and celebrated. As magnificent and unique as they are, our traditions also help preserve conservative mindsets that may be seen as regressive. Because of this deep intertwine, often movements that call for a change are seen as a direct attack on the country’s identity. The dichotomy of tradition and progress has been highlighted multiple times recently, as the #MeToo movement trickles into Pakistan.

While this movement is desperately needed in a patriarchal and heavily gendered society like ours, it is met with just as much resistance because of the threat it poses. The existing system of patriarchy allows men to manipulate the movement over and over again to maintain their favorable position.

The movement extended to Pakistan in April 2018 when Meesha Shafi, a Pakistani singer, came out with allegations against another singer, Ali Zafar. She exposed him on social media and explained that he had been inappropriate with her while they worked together. Shafi was met with a lot of support too, but mostly she dealt with a mob of defensive men and women who perceived this step towards change as an attack on their own values. Shafi was seen as a woman heavily influenced by Western concepts and was condemned for speaking on taboo topics such as inappropriate sexual behavior. As a conservative society, there is a lot of importance given to modesty which was the first thing Shafi challenged as she spoke out frankly about her experience. Shafi’s strength was seen as an attack on patriarchal values, which favored her harasser automatically.

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Zafar played upon this discomfort of the population and manipulated Shafi’s message to favor himself. He used tropes like his celebrity status, reputation as a “family man”, and his philanthropic work, as his defense against Shafi, and instead sued her back for defamation. What started as allegations on social media in April 2018 has now been dragged out to become a messy social spectacle in which Shafi is painted as a scorned entity while Zafar continues to boost his image as a respected, beloved, and above all, traditional man who is familiar for the masses.

Although Shafi is credited with extending the conversation around #MeToo to Pakistan, she is not the first woman to speak out about working with a powerful man who behaved inappropriately. In 2017, a female politician Ayesha Gulalai accused the chief of her political party, Imran Khan, of sending her inappropriate text messages. Gulalai was met with far less support than Shafi, as she was immediately denounced by her own political party, and social media trolls rose to the occasion with aggressive threats.

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Needless to say, Gulalai did not get the justice she set out for, but her harasser did become the prime minister of the country. Again, Khan appeals to the traditional mindset of the masses whereas Gulalai was threatening the power men are given over women in countless dynamics. Not only did Khan and his political party ensure the silencing of future victims with their reaction, he has since then also made attacks on feminism saying “I completely disagree with this Western concept, this feminist movement… it has degraded the role of the mother.” Feminism and #MeToo threaten powerful men as they prove that even oppressed voices cannot be muffled forever, which is why these men must resort to manipulating the message so it becomes distasteful for everyone else as well. As Khan’s statement reflects, men in power would much rather manipulate any kind of progress that threatens their superiority, by implying that asking for a change is offensive to our current values and consequently, to our identity.

Women who seek justice and choose to speak out are seen as controversial for not conforming to the ideal “traditional” Pakistani woman who is expected to silently accept the patriarchal system she lives in. If a woman dares to challenge the existing equilibrium, she is instantly demonized by a society that maintains its outdated mindset by hiding behind the excuse of traditions. Unfortunately, powerful men like Imran Khan and Ali Zafar have proved how this intrinsic connection between our identity and traditions makes it so difficult for our society to move towards change. Both of them turned their allegations back around on the victim and criticized the attempt towards change by encouraging the regressive mentality our society holds onto. Unfortunately, as men they have the louder voice, and yet they use their power to foster a toxic environment that allows them to remain in power. However, while their efforts at manipulation have slowed down our progress, social media is helping women reclaim their voices as they remain motivated in their fight against patriarchy.

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Jaimee Ratliff is championing inclusive yoga through hip hop

Jaimee Ratliff, is an Atlanta based Yoga instructor, who teaches yoga with a twist. Her students flow through challenging poses with hip-hop and R&B tunes in the background. Yoga is not just a form of exercise, but a tool used for self-care that has helped Jaimee get through difficult times. Jaimee teaches yoga through pop-up classes and out of different venues throughout Atlanta, with the goal of making yoga accessible to everyone, regardless of age, race, and gender.

Jaimee sat down with The Tempest to discuss her love of yoga, self-care and what it means to be a woman of color teaching yoga.

The Tempest: On your website, it details your mission, which is to make yoga accessible to all people regardless of race, gender etc. How have you achieved that so far?

Jaimee Ratliff: I have achieved my mission by making my class open and welcoming. When people come into my class they don’t have that same feeling that I did when I first went into studios. It makes people feel more comfortable when you walk into a place and you see people that look like you.

I would say that about 85% of my students are people of color. It’s not a typical yoga class, it’s very diverse. You don’t just come in seeing one race, which is typically Caucasian women. I have people of all shapes and sizes in my class.  And before we even start a class, I make my students introduce themselves to someone they don’t know. I would say that’s how I keep the diversity.

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 Why did you choose hip-hop?

I choose hip-hop because I knew that I wanted to be able to get more people of color involved in the practice. And there are a hundred different studios that you can take classes in, but most of them aren’t playing music like that.

I thought, what way could I entice people to just come? Some have those initial barriers to entry because people are like, “I’m not flexible enough” or “yoga isn’t for me”. And they don’t really see images of people that look like them anyway.

I felt that the best way to get them in the studio is to create this hip-hop yoga, that invites movement and community. They can move how they want! That alone entices people. They can see that I’m relatable. I don’t sound like a lofty guru, I have a sense of humor and I encourage them to try new things. But I also include inspiring meditations at the end of class. So you’re getting both Tupac and the Depac.

The goal is to introduce people of color to yoga. Because I feel like we’re the ones who need it most. Self-care is a big buzzword in the wellness industry now but it’s not something that we always subscribe to. We are taught to work our asses off and never really take care of ourselves. Because if you take of yourself then you are seen as selfish. But self-care is important and I speak on that a lot. And I want to bring more people into yoga and then from then on they can decide if they like, vinyasa or maybe like the restorative or yin; there are so many different styles. I want them to see the benefits physically, mentally and emotionally that you can get from a regular practice and from there you’re free to go on and try out whatever works for you.

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 Do you find that yoga is an attractive way to encourage self-care in the black community?

I think it’s one of the many modalities of self-care. I wholeheartedly believe in therapists and seeking out others like spirituality or meditation. There are so many types of healing. Personally, I use it as one of the tools in my toolbox to keep myself mentally and emotionally sane. But it’s not a one size fits all. There are aspects of the practice that again if you’re a spiritual person, you may want to read scriptures or go to church. And I’m glad you mentioned therapy which is also another stigma in the black community, along with other communities as well.

What makes my classes unique is that I bring a real, raw part of myself and my own journey to my students. So I do talk to them about how therapy is something that I have integrated with yoga, through tough times. I also share a large part of my journey online. I believe we need more people who don’t just showcase their glamorous lives on social media, but also the tough parts because that’s what makes us human and feel connected.

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Are you currently on tour now?

The hip-hop tour kicks off February 24th in New York City which I’m very excited about. I just found out that it was sold out, along with a few other cities: Chicago, Atlanta, Boston, and Nashville. We had to open up two classes in Chicago because one class sold out in four days, and then the second one sold out in four hours. Out of about 840 tickets, we’re about 35 tickets from being sold out.

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What advice do you have for women of color who want to create these spaces?

I would say a big part of that is bringing your authentic self. and I guess people have observed the success I have obtained with doing the hip-hop yoga and will try to throw these classes on to their schedule. You have to ask yourself, why am I doing this? Because if it’s not organic and authentic then it will show. You truly need to be passionate about what you want to do.

Before I became a yoga teacher, I was a travel writer and everyone would tell me that they wanted my life, when inside I struggled with personal issues. I don’t want people to look at me and want my life. Being authentic will attract the people in the audiences that you want to bring to whatever it is you want to create. With yoga, there are so many options. You can take a yoga class with anybody. But it’s more than the class, it’s the person, it’s the teacher it’s that connection that has people coming back.

If I were to share anything with the readers of The Tempest, I would say to stay open to all the experiences that you have in life. Everything we experience leads us closer and closer to who we are to become.

This piece has been edited for length and clarity

An earlier version of this article stated that Jaimee has her own studio. Jaimee does not have a stationary studio and focuses on only pop-ups.

An earlier version of this article stated that the tour only had 480 tickets. The total tickets for the tour was 840.

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Fashion Lookbook

10 tips on how to Desi-fy your outfit and stand out from the crowd

I absolutely love wearing clothes and accessories from my Pakistani culture, although this wasn’t always the case.

When I was around six years old I went to the movie theater in Pakistani wedding clothes, not caring what anyone thought of me.  But when I moved from Southern California to Lahore, Pakistan in sixth grade, I was surprised to learn one thing: wearing Desi clothes was not considered very cool. How could it be that in general, people enjoyed wearing Western clothes more than the traditional clothes from their own country?

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For four years, while living in Lahore, I started feeling like I should also conform to how girls in my school would dress (outside of school when we didn’t have to wear our uniform). My mother encouraged me to wear the beautiful kurtas and shalwar kameez’s that we picked out together, but I felt like I would look peindoo or like a FOB. During those years I was still trying to form my identity and being accepted by my peers was very important to me.

However, when I moved back to America, in tenth grade, I started to notice how people actually really appreciated the colorfulness and uniqueness of my Desi clothes. It was not long before I began to embrace my attire and now I confidently and happily try to Desi-fy my outfits whenever I get the chance. I realize that everyone has their own preferences and if wearing Western clothes makes women in Lahore (or anywhere else in the world) feel happier then they should go for it.

Of course, I’ll note this: there’s a difference between owning your culture – and appropriating another’s. If you need a quick run-through, check this or this out.

1. Adding a vibrant scarf

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Can’t go wrong with colorful scarves. They make any outfit pop out.

2. Throwing on some dangly earrings, hoops, or jhumkas

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3. Wearing silver or gold bangles

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Feeling too lazy to dress up for a lunch or dinner? Boom! Pop these on and it’ll look like you put some effort into it.

4. Investing in dhoti-style baggy pants

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They can be mixed and matched with so many different tops and are super comfortable.

5. Adding a paranda to your hair (if it’s long enough)

It’s actually really fun wearing one because you rarely ever see anyone else with it. If it’s too much for you, simply adding a braid or two will give you a similar look.

6. Replacing your flip flops with some khussas

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If you don’t own a pair, any other traditional-looking sandals can work too. It’s a small change, which makes a big difference!

7. Putting some kajal (kohl eyeliner) to your lower eyelash line

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I prefer black kajal, but you can be adventurous and try other bright and bold colors. If you’re skeptical, at least try it out!

8. Accessorizing with a fun, colorful tote or purse

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Even if you have a simple outfit on, the bag you choose to carry can give your outfit that final touch.

9. Wearing an anklet

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It adds a Desi touch, but make sure you wear it when it’s visible!

10. Henna!

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Can’t go wrong with some beautiful henna! It’ll definitely be a conversation starter.

We all have our own styles and way of dressing, but sometimes it’s fun to get creative and try something different. I may be biased, but I definitely do think my culture has some of the most authentic and beautiful clothing!

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Gender & Identity Life

Here’s why I sort of celebrate Halloween

Ah, the day has finally come where people dress up as either things they want to be, things they can’t be, or things they really shouldn’t be dressing up as. Growing up, I’ve always been intrigued by Halloween even though I don’t necessarily “celebrate” it in my culture. In fact, my parents always used to tell me that I wasn’t allowed to participate in the dressing up and trick-or-treating, but I did it regardless.

Aside from all of the children going crazy running around trick-or-treating, and the “scary” Halloween decorations that all my neighbors put up, Halloween isn’t all that bad. It’s actually quite interesting when you look into the history of Halloween and see why we actually celebrate it.

Every year when Halloween comes around, it’s been celebrated in some type of way. In elementary school, it meant going all out with your costume and bringing candy for everyone. In middle school, it was about trying to look cool but still festive and there was barely candy involved. And now in high school, you either care a LOT or not at all about Halloween.

So why do I still sort of celebrate it? I’ll be honest, I love everything scary. Horror movies, haunted houses, roller coasters – you name it, I love it. And not gonna lie, I’ve dressed up in traditional clothing for a majority of my Halloween years as a “Desi princess” or “Pakistani bride,” but the festivities of Halloween just excite me.

Like what’s more fun than a day where everyone can just pretend to be something they’re not and eat a whole lot of candy? The main reason I love Halloween, though, is definitely because of all the candy. Everything’s on sale and I can’t resist candy corn, which ONLY comes in stores during this time. But Halloween also means something else for me.

Halloween means pumpkins. Pumpkins means that fall is finally here in California. Fall means darker lip colors, sweaters, scarves, boots, and the final stretch before the New Year. So, yeah, why wouldn’t I enjoy Halloween?

With that being said, it doesn’t mean that I take Halloween seriously. Sure I like to dress up and I like the festivities, but I’m not that one person who calls everyone out for not dressing up. Neither am I the person who gets UBER excited about the day.

But whether I’m Minnie Mouse (which I was for the past 2 years in a row, oops), or just working my traditional clothing to get more candy, I always have fun on Halloween. And quite frankly, I think most people get a kick out of the holiday. I mean, what’s the harm? And if you don’t like scary things, just stay in all night during Halloween to avoid the ridiculous costumes and decorated houses.