Black women have had to endure a lot in society from politicized hair to those ignoring our declared agency. But there have been times when Black women have heard some things that made them go, “What?”
1. “Can I touch your hair?”
Sometimes an outstretched hand is accompanied by this question and you have to resist the urge to swat them like a fly. It takes more than two hours for me to wash and twist my hair, please don’t touch it.
2. “Are you mixed?”
Every Black woman knows the struggle of having 4C, 4D or even 4Z hair strands. Unfortunately, it has become the overall model of what people think Black hair looks like. Big curls are not exclusive to mixed women of color!
3. “Who is that boy?”
You’ve heard this question every time you stood next to a boy or when a boy would just glance at you. This is usually asked by your mom followed by a suspicious glare.
4. “What that booty do though?”
This is commonly asked on any and all dating platforms. I respond with an eye roll emoji.
5. “You got a man?”
This is commonly asked by random men on the street. I usually respond by running away.
6. “Is that your real hair?”
People of all races can grow long luscious hair. Some of us wear bundles and some of us choose to wear our hair out.
7. “You’re pretty for a Black girl.”
I’ve always been told to take this as a compliment, but it does more damage than good.
8. “I don’t see color.”
Unfortunately, we Black women don’t have this luxury.
9. “Why don’t you cook?”
Please don’t ever ask this in front of my mom. I’ll never hear the end of it.
10. “Wow, you speak really white.”
Black women are ostracized for not speaking the right vernacular and judged if they do. We can speak any way we want to, it’s a free country.
11. “You love Beyoncé, right?”
Beyoncé is not the poster child for Black women. But if I got front row seats to her concert, I might actually cry.
12. “Who’s your favorite rapper?”
I’m still distraught over the deaths of Tupac and Biggie.
13. “I didn’t want to talk to you at first, you seemed angry.”
I’ve heard this many times on my end, mostly because my normal face is my angry face.
14. “Why don’t you smile? You’re a pretty girl.”
I don’t usually walk around with a huge smile on my face, because I don’t want to look like a crazy person.
15. “Why can’t I say the n-word?”
A lot of Black men and women say it, as a reclaiming of the word. But it’s not an invitation for others.
16. “How do you feel about interracial relationships?”
Leonardo DiCaprio was and still is my celebrity crush. Enough said.
17. “Feminism isn’t for Black women.”
As Black women, we have a higher disadvantage than anyone else in this country. Feminism was made for us.
18. Who is Felicia?
All Black women know what this means and when it is the right time to use it.
19. “People like you read?”
When I was younger, people would think I was weird because I preferred writing and reading to literally anything else. I’d say it paid off.
20. “This is the fourth time this week that you watched Love & Basketball.“
Every Black woman has seen this movie at least twice in their entire life. It is arguably one of the greatest Black films of all time.