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Since September, tabloids and Kardashian-fans have been speculating over Kylie Jenner’s pregnancy as Kylie stopped her daily Instagram and Snapchat posts and seldom made public appearances. From her manicure to her outfits, the press couldn’t stop speculating as to whether Kylie Jenner was having a baby. At times the press was absolutely dogged in trying to figure out if Kylie was actually pregnant.
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But on February 4, 2018, Kylie came out of hiding. She posted on Instagram saying that her “pregnancy was one [she] chose not to do in front of the world” and that she ‘knew [her] baby would feel every stress and emotion so [she] chose to do it this way for [her] little life and happiness.” She accompanied her post with a twelve minute long YouTube video about where she had been the last nine months. While many expected the reality star to broadcast her pregnancy, as her sisters had; I was pleasantly surprised that she didn’t. In a time where you can share every piece of your life with the touch of a button, you have to think about what you don’t share.
With reality television meeting Instagram and Snapchat, it feels like every moment of the Kardashian’s lives are out there for the world to see. I can see what workouts Khloe and Kourtney are doing. I can see behind the scenes of Kendall’s photoshoots. And I can see Kim playing with her daughter North. All of this is captured on Instagram, Snapchat and then broadcast on E! Network. It can feel as if reality stars and other celebrities are intimately woven into your life – like friends who you catch up on a daily basis. Every intimate detail of their lives is shared to their millions of fans.
But when is it enough? Many people were outraged, confused, and surprised when Kylie went missing from social media. But living life as the perfect Instagram shot, tabloid picture, and television moment doesn’t really sound like living. While I am clearly not a lip kit queen or reality star, I often times feel pressure and stress around my own social media presence.
It feels as if the fake candid-ness of Instagram photos brushed to perfection or Snapchat stories that look too fun to be true, take the fun out of real lived experiences. I love going out with my friends, but I hate having to capture it on Instagram or Snapchat. But if you didn’t broadcast it, did it really happen? For awhile, social media has felt more like a burden to keep up appearances than a fun way to connect with friends.
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My most treasured memories have been with my friends and family, not scrolling on social media. And I absolutely hate it when I go out with friends and everyone just sits together on their phones. But maybe that is just the world we live in. Friendships and relationship are maintained by this connectedness. As a generation I think we need to redefine what being present while also being engaged looks like. And maybe we can learn something from Kylie.
I really respect Kylie for taking her pregnancy offline. It is so hard to just do your own thing as a normal person. As a celebrity, made famous through broadcasting her life, Kylie has been held under a microscope for years. And just like the rest of us, social media stresses her out too.
Maybe next time you’re in a group of people who are all on your phones, you can ask them to hang up so you guys can hangout. Because what is the point of having a social media presence if it makes you miserable? For me, instead of posting because I feel like I have to, I’ve made a resolution to only tweet, snap and ‘gram when I want to.
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Keep it up Kylie, you’re reminding us that sometimes taking a step back to focus on yourself is exactly what you need.