Imagine this: A 21-year-old woman walks into the room. She’s wearing a t-shirt with her favorite band on it. She’s humming a song you haven’t heard before (and maybe you don’t even like it) and she has the biggest smile on her face. If your first instinct is to judge her for being a fangirl at that age, then you’ve already failed this test.
I’m kidding. Ok, not really. This 21-year-old woman is me and she gets judged (very often) for being who she is – a fangirl. And I don’t really get the big deal, in all honesty.
I’m a fangirl and I fail to understand why this makes other people uncomfortable.
It literally has absolutely nothing to do with you or your existence in general. I’m not forcing you to like whoever I like, or agree with me at any point.
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If I do share what I’m loving at the moment, with you, it only means I genuinely consider you a close friend/person in my life and I want to share that part of my life (which means a lot to me) with you.
It does not in any way mean I want you to obsess about it/them too.
I wore my Flash t-shirt to college one day in my second year and someone came up to me and legitimately said, “I don’t like that show”. Here’s what’s interesting about this – I never asked them what they thought of the show.
Don’t get me wrong though, I’m all for opinions, and criticisms, about what I like too. What I’m not here for is unsolicited judgment and advice on how I should be living my life – I didn’t ask you to tell me if I should be a 21 year old obsessing over a band, book, or a tv show – so don’t tell me what I should do.
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Being a fangirl is one of the best things in my life. It’s an experience uncomparable and something I wouldn’t go back on or give up – if given the choice.
The excitement, the thrill, the exhilarating emotions, the love, and the dedication, above all, that I have seen amongst fangirls is something magical. We’re all here for one purpose and one common thread unites us all – our passion for that particular artist/band/book/tv show/movie, etc.
That’s amazing stuff – and it’s the kind of stuff I live for. I couldn’t imagine not being absolutely smitten and preoccupied with something at a particular point of time just because the amount of happiness I draw from the experience is unfathomable.
I love every minute of being a fangirl.
More than just that, being a fangirl is so good for my mental health. As someone who has struggled with anxiety and depression, only I know how brilliant fangirling has been for my mental health.
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It gives me purpose when I feel worthless, it gives me hope when I feel like there’s nothing left to hold on to, it gives me light when everything is dark and I feel lost.
Fangirling has saved me from collapsing into the dark pits of my thoughts so many times. It has worked as a strong form of self-care, more than just a few times, and it continues to do the same for me – even today.
The happiest place on earth for me, every year, without fail, is Comic-Con. I’ve been going for Comic-Con in my city since 2015 and it’s honestly the best thing ever. It’s where I get to meet people like me – where we feel like we belong. It’s beautiful and emotional all at the same time.
Not just Comic Con too, being a fangirl has gotten me so many twitter friends (some of whom are also friends of mine in reality now) that I couldn’t possibly go back on my decision of making an account dedicated to Justin Bieber and One Direction back in 2012 when I did.
I may not be as obsessed with them as I was, back in 2012, but I can never owe them enough for the way they helped me through high school, the way Harry Potter and Hermione Granger taught me to be brave even when I didn’t want to be, the way One Tree Hill helped me understand myself as I turned 18 and stepped into the real world, the way Wonder Woman has helped me tap into my actual potential (and still does) or the way BTS help me, every single day, as I start my day with their music on full blast, getting ready for the gym and the rest of my routine with the biggest smile on my face.
When something gives me that much happiness – how can you judge me for it?
Let me be a fangirl and let me love what I love. I sincerely hope you find something like that to love and hold dear to if you haven’t yet. It’s quite an experience, I tell you.