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This one technique will change everything when it comes to your love life

One of the ways for me to have the best orgasm of my life doesn't involve a penis, or a vagina — it involves an area that's often ignored.

Women have myriad erogenous zones to stimulate — yeah, it’s not just all about the clitoris, my friends.

So it’s not terribly surprising that nipplegasms or breastgasms are a successful way to reach climax. However, most individuals aren’t aware that their nipples hold the key. With their 800 nerve endings and closeness to the heart, nipple play is something to be incorporated into your sexual to-do list.

What’s even better about nipplegasms is that they are non-binary — meaning anyone can get off during nipple play as long as you have nipples.

I first discovered my success with having an orgasm while incorporating nipple play when a partner simultaneously touched my clitoris and nipple. The sensation between both zones was like a wave. Slightly different than a penis in vagina orgasm, and somehow more intimate. At first, I wasn’t sure if what I was feeling was exactly an orgasm. However, once I started to gyrate and the feeling in my nipples translated the remainder of my body, I knew what I was experiencing.

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Taoist texts encourage couples to use their mouths on nipples in order to relax the body and the mind. Scientifically, nipples release the chemical oxytocin which encourages relaxation and bonding. Since your breasts can swell up to 25 percent during an arousal period, your breasts, and nipples become larger and more sensitive.

A recent study found that nipples activate the genital sensory cortex. This means that by stimulating the nipples, the cervix, clitoris, and vagina are activated. Even if nipple play doesn’t do much for you on its own, it’s great to pair with genital stimulation.

The brain is taught to associate nipple play with feelings of having an orgasm — meaning that nipple play opens up many doors to incredible orgasms.

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According to a study conducted by Dr. Herbert Otto, 29 percent of women experience a breast orgasm at one time or another.

So, how do you achieve an orgasm with nipple stimulation?

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While we could give you a step-by-step guide on how to achieve an orgasm through your nipples, it’s a little more complicated than that. Similar to penetrative orgasms, experimentation and exploring with your partner is necessary.

Not all nipples are created equal.

Hard or soft stimulation depends on the individual involved in the process. The only way to overcome the “right” or “wrong” way to stimulate someone is to discuss and communicate what works for their body.

If you’re looking for some starter tips, however, we have you covered.

First, begin by relaxing, as you should with any new sexual situation. For me, I direct the hands of my partner and slowly let them know what I like and how I like it. Nipple play is also a great way to begin communicating with your partner since it involves some instruction. Gently begin applying pressure and use verbal (or nonverbal) queues to engage with your partner as to what feels great, or what doesn’t.

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Understanding basic nipple and breast anatomy are also important in order to achieve a successful orgasm. The breast, the areola, and the nipple itself are all areas of stimulation. Start off slow and gentle until you and your partner learn what feels best. Blowing on the nipple with your mouth is a great way to ease into the sensation since nipples are sensitive to temperature.

I personally enjoy nipple play in conjunction with clitoral stimulation.

Combining the two creates an intimate moment for you and your partner — either you stimulate your clitoris while your partner incorporates nipple play or vice versa. While both of you are focusing on your body, and your body alone, the intimacy level is brought up to a new level.

Biting, nipple clamps, oil, and more intense temperatures can all be added later once you’re both more confident. I’m a grade level nipple expert and I still haven’t advanced to anything beyond basic nipple play.

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It’s too good to pass up and I’ve started to enjoy it more and more as my partner finds new ways to turn me on.

Besides building a bond between you and your partner, nipple play has some health benefits.

Barry Komisaruk, from Rutgers University, has studied how different areas of the body stimulate the genitals. Komisaruk and his team found that “women who have suffered nerve damage in childbirth because of diseases like diabetes,” can help improve clitoral nerve stimulation. He goes on to say that “It could be a supplement for experiencing orgasms,” for those individuals who have suffered nerve damage.

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Think of your nipples as a clitoris or a penis — syncing body parts can help you achieve a wave of feelings during your climax.

Since nipplegasms vary in feeling in comparison to penetrative or clitoral orgasms, try mixing it up in the beginning on focusing on what worked for you or your partner.

Upping the ante in your sex life is always a new and refreshing experience.

Your nipples have been there all along, so why not try and incorporate them into your new play techniques?

Whether you achieve an orgasm, or not, their sensitivity is sure to bring invigorating feelings into the bedroom.

Furthermore, nipple play isn’t just a new thing to try in the bedroom, it’s an incredible orgasm. Having an orgasm through your nipples alone is empowering, it’s a wave of emotional intensity.

It’s a new way of climaxing.

It’s personal.

It’s connecting to those nerves that make up your biological being, tapping into them, and turning them on.

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S. Nicole Lane

S. Nicole Lane

Nicole is a women's health journalist living in Chicago. Her sex and art column, "Intimate Justice" can be found on Sixty Inches from Center. She also contributes to The Establishment, HelloGiggles, GO Magazine, and other corners of the internet. In addition to writing she is an artist who works with assemblage and sculpture.

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