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Too often, women and nonbinary people are shamed for seeking their own sexual pleasure.

Not only are we seemingly conditioned to believe that pleasure is solely dependent on a partner, but we’re also faced with judgment and negativity when it comes to self-pleasure.

Self-pleasure is key to exploring sexuality, and stigmatizing sexual exploration is preventing women from unapologetically exploring their bodies and what makes them happy. Sexual pleasure doesn’t have to be taboo – in fact, it can be an extremely affirmative and empowering experience.

Sexual exploration and self-pleasure is a radical form of self-love.

There is power in being in tune with your body and embracing sexuality attached to it, and we want to help you get there. We put together a list of sex toys you absolutely need to check out to help practice self-love and explore your own sexuality:

1. The Womanizer Pro40, $99.99


The Womanizer isn’t your typical sex toy. It’s an air-based stimulator that mimics oral sex through a combination of air suction and vibrating pressure waves. According to studies, it can take women up to 20 minutes to reach orgasm, but with the Womanizer, 80 percent of users claimed that they reached a climax within two to three minutes.

This toy is pretty revolutionary, not only because of its technology but because it allows users to achieve pleasure at a quicker and more intense rate (many users also reported experiencing multiple orgasms while using it!). Users can even adjust the intensity of the combined vibration and suction, so the power of self-pleasure is completely in your own hands.

Although The Womanizer a bit of a splurge, why not treat yourself?

2. Pelvix Concept Pelvic Floor Exerciser, $52.00


This pelvic floor exerciser kit gives its users a revolutionary way to practice kegel exercises, allowing you to exercise your pelvic muscles at your own pace. The kit gives you multiple kegel balls that are varied in weight, so you have the power to change up the intensity of the exercises depending on where you’re at with your pelvic floor strength.

This convenient kit can overall help its users strengthen the intensity of their orgasms. Kegel exercises can make intercourse and masturbation feel amazing because experts say they strengthen the pelvic floor muscles that contract when you orgasm.

You can practice kegel exercises just about anywhere too—so give it a shot with reckless abandon.

3. Jimmyjane Form 2 Vibrator, $72.55


This clitoral stimulator is adorably-sized: It’s portable and fits right into the palm of your hand, so you can pretty much take it with you anywhere.

It also looks like it has little ears, which users can strategically use to touch the clitoris and labia in stimulating ways, almost mimicking the way you can use your own fingers to stimulate that area (except you get to control the intensity through varying vibrations and contortions).

This vibrator is also awesome because it’s waterproof, so you get creative and don’t have to limit yourself to using it in bed.

4. Je Joue Mimi Soft Clitoral Stimulator, $89.30


Using the Mimi Soft Clitoral Stimulator puts “treating yourself” to a whole different level. Not only is it a great clitoral stimulator, but it’s extremely smooth against your skin, creating a gentler sensation that other vibrators don’t often provide. Its size is also perfect if you want to stimulate your entire erotic area.

The toy is also great because of its remarkably subtle design.

It’s less in your face about being overtly a vibrator, so this could be great for those who are trying a clitoral stimulator for the first time and may have felt embarrassed to purchase one in the past.

5. NJoy Pure Wand, $72.82


If you’re all about the G-Spot and aren’t exactly looking for something that vibrates, then this toy is perfect for you.

Refinery29 calls this the “the most perfect dildo ever.” The shape of the NJoy Pure Wand makes it the perfect toy to stimulate your G-Spot, and with the different-sized ends, the wand gives you the flexibility to explore what feels best for you.

6. Jimmyjane Hello Touch X, $74.95


The Hello Touch X is interesting because it combines using your fingertips with the vibrations typically found it a stimulating toy, putting control literally in your hands. You also have the option to use electrostimulation, which might be especially arousing (or kinky) when with a partner.

This toy is great if you want versatility in exploring sexual pleasure.

7. Coconu Organic Personal Lubricant, $13.99


Coconut oil is all the rage today, and it’s not surprising at all to find out that there is even lube that’s coconut oil-based. This personal lubricant is changing the game: it’s the only USDA-certified organic lube on the market today. As an added plus, it’s also cruelty-free.

Although not technically a toy, lubricant is still an extremely important component of self-pleasure.

Go forth and conquer your pleasure!

  • Alicia Soller

    Alicia Soller is a first generation-born Filipinx American digital storyteller committed to uplifting the narratives of communities of color. She is a graduate of the University of Florida, where she received her B.S. in Journalism and began her involvement with community organizing. She currently does freelance writing, marketing and design work with non-profit organizations.