Body positivity has become a major campaign in the feminist movement. Because of this, social media is constantly being updated with tweets, blog posts, status updates, and images all surrounding people being #bodyposi – people talking, expressing, and showing their comfort and positivity in not only themselves but in others as well.
Unfortunately, with all this positivity comes a lot of negativity – people getting offended and putting positivity down – and I want to know why.
So I asked Twitter.
serious question: why are people so offended by the #bodyposi movement?
— anal girl (@benadryI) August 14, 2015
because when people feel good about themselves openly, it makes other uncomfortable for some reason. https://t.co/HjLWFKzdI8
— KYMORON (@KYMARIPHILLIPS) August 14, 2015
Is it true? Does one’s comfort make someone else uncomfortable? From what I’ve seen, yes. It does. I follow so many people online who take pride in their bodies – posting photos of their curves, stretch marks, and their so-called “flaws.” I’ve seen girls who aren’t considered the beauty standard and who are considered the beauty standard – both loving themselves, being happy, and feeling comfortable in their skin.
And there’s always that one person who has to ruin it for everyone. Or there’s that person who has nothing substantial to comment on other than someone’s looks to try to prove a point. And if a woman posts a picture of her body, she’s automatically assumed to be a “hoe” or a “slut” – and somehow, their body is correlated to their education or lack of one. As if loving yourself and your body means that you don’t have an education.
And where does this lack of comfort and idiocy stem from? Society.
because they are obsessed with shoving their ideas of what's socially acceptable as confidence down others throats. https://t.co/4zUJQEGWZL
— shia lacunt (@fuzzycuntkins) August 14, 2015
Since childhood, society has constantly shoved its beauty standards in our faces. On TV and in magazines, we see long-legged beauties with flat stomachs and scar-free skin. We see gorgeous tall men with shiny abs of steel and chiseled faces. We’ve been dealing with this for so long that now, we’re just so accustomed to one certain look that many of us can’t not bash anyone that looks different.
I get it, you don’t want to see cellulite, flabby stomach, stretch marks, or saggy breasts. But you do know they exist, right? That people actually have them? Your mom, your best friend, your dad. People that you love or care about are being neglected and completely ignored by society. And when someone tries to show it or express it, you immediately get offended because you’re not used to seeing it on TV.
You do know that these people have the same body parts you do, so why are you bashing them? Because they look different? Makes sense.
We all know misery loves company. But someone’s comfort with their body is no reason for you to feel uncomfortable. And it certainly doesn’t mean you should go out of your way to make them feel uncomfortable.
It’s okay to have your own preferences but there is no need to shame or make fun of others. It doesn’t empower anyone when you say a smaller body looks better than a bigger body; you don’t validate anyone by insulting someone else. Not everyone has control over their bodies. Everyone, no matter their shape, size, or flaws, deserves to feel good about themselves, deserves to be able to flaunt their bodies, and deserves respect. There’s nothing wrong with self-confidence, so why shame people for having it?
The body positive movement was made to make everyone feel good about themselves – not to make anyone feel negative. If you feel offended or upset because someone is proud of their body, maybe you need to take a few steps back and figure out why. If the only thing you can come up with is “they’re too fat/too skinny, they shouldn’t be doing that,” “they’re ugly, why do they think they’re cute?” or “they’re just doing this so they can have an excuse to show off,” then take a seat and try again. Because none of that will stop the body positivity movement.
Get used to the bodies that society has been trying to hide from you. Because they’re here, they’ve been here, and they’re not going anywhere.